How I Learned To Embrace The Change

Growing up, I was always a creature of habit. I had my routines, my comfort zone, and the way I thought things should be. However, life often presents us with unexpected lessons in surprising ways, and it wasn’t long before I was faced with significant changes that forced me out of my comfort zone. From moving to a new country to dealing with the loss of a loved one, change has been a constant companion in my life. Over time, I’ve come to embrace change and the growth opportunities it brings.

As I’ve grappled with these transformations, I’ve often wondered: If change is so “natural,” why does it feel so unnatural to deal with? Why do we tend to resist change and seek stability? Is change always good? These are questions that have plagued philosophers, scientists, and people like myself for centuries.

Take, for example, the philosophical debate on the role of tradition in change. Is tradition a barrier to change, or is rejecting tradition a reinforcer of change? Tradition can be seen as a heuristic or an algorithm that predicts outcomes based on past experiences. Following tradition means maintaining stability, and in many ways, this can be a positive thing. However, when faced with new challenges, adhering to tradition might limit our ability to adapt and evolve.

This idea is supported by the observations of many civilizations throughout history. As civilizations reach their peak, they often become rigid and inflexible, eventually succumbing to decline and disintegration. This cultural breakdown is often attributed to a loss of adaptability and creativity. A society that cannot adapt to changing conditions is unable to continue the process of cultural evolution and will ultimately fail.

From a neurological perspective, our brains are wired to form habits and routines. Neural networks become stronger as we repeat the same actions over time, making it difficult to break from tradition. But on the flip side, evolution itself is a constant process of change. From an evolutionary perspective, change is the driving force behind adaptation and survival.

As a cosmic force, change is inevitable. It permeates everything, from atoms to galaxies. It is the driving force behind the increase in entropy over time, and without it, life as we know it would not exist. So, how do we reconcile our natural resistance to change with the necessity of change in our lives?

Woman resisting change

One way I’ve learned to embrace change is by reframing my perspective. Instead of seeing change as a threat to my stability, I now view it as an opportunity for growth and self-improvement. By stepping out of my comfort zone and adapting to new situations, I’ve become more resilient and open-minded.

This shift in perspective has also led me to question the role of tradition in my life. Do I reject tradition and speed up the rate of progress, or do I embrace tradition and resist change? Ultimately, I believe there is a balance to be struck. Some traditions provide a sense of stability and continuity, while others may hold us back from adapting to new circumstances.

As I continue to navigate the ever-changing landscape of life, I’ve learned that change is not something to be feared or resisted. Rather, it is an opportunity to grow, learn, and evolve. By embracing change, we can better understand the world around us and our place within it.

So, the next time you find yourself faced with change, ask yourself: Is this an opportunity for growth? How can I use this change to become a better version of myself? And most importantly, remember that change is a natural part of life – it is up to us to decide how we will adapt and grow with it.

In the end, life is a series of changes, and the way we respond to them defines who we are. By embracing change and recognizing the opportunities it presents, we can live richer, more fulfilling lives.

In my personal journey, I’ve found that change often comes when we least expect it. But by cultivating an open mind and a willingness to adapt, we can turn these unexpected moments into opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

To help others on their journey of embracing change, I’d like to share a few strategies that have worked for me:

  1. Acknowledge your emotions: Change can bring up a range of emotions, from fear and anxiety to excitement and anticipation. It’s essential to recognize and validate these feelings as part of the process. By acknowledging our emotions, we can better understand our reactions to change and find healthy ways to cope.
  2. Focus on the positives: While change can be challenging, it often brings about new opportunities and experiences. Try to focus on the potential benefits of the change and envision how it might lead to personal growth and development.
  3. Be proactive: Instead of waiting for change to happen, take charge of your life and make conscious decisions to shape your future. By being proactive, you can create positive changes and minimize the impact of unexpected events.
  4. Cultivate resilience: Change is inevitable, but our ability to bounce back and adapt is what sets us apart. Work on building your resilience by developing healthy coping mechanisms, seeking support from loved ones, and focusing on personal growth.
  5. Stay curious: Embrace a mindset of curiosity and continuous learning. By staying open to new ideas and experiences, you’ll be better equipped to adapt to change and find creative solutions to challenges.

In conclusion, the journey of embracing change is a deeply personal and transformative one. By recognizing the inevitability of change, questioning the role of tradition, and adopting a mindset of growth and adaptability, we can learn to thrive in the face of uncertainty.

As we explore the nature of change and its impact on our lives, it’s essential to remember that our reactions to change are just as important as the changes themselves. By choosing to see change as an opportunity for growth and development, we can overcome our natural resistance to change and learn to embrace it wholeheartedly.

Change is a fundamental aspect of the human experience, and the way we navigate these changes ultimately shapes our character and worldview. By embracing change with an open heart and mind, we can cultivate a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us – and ultimately, lead richer, more fulfilling lives.

How I Learned That Change Is Inevitable

The last time I posted about change was over 2 years ago and little did I know that I was about to experience the most profound change yet. But this time, it was not something that I had planned or anticipated. When I was writing that post, I was only thinking about making a career move – exiting my job and following the dream to build a business focused around helping people to learn and adapt to change. But before I was able to finalize my plans, the Universe threw a curveball, and the pandemic, which ensued, put me entirely off track. Only a couple of years later I felt comfortable enough to get back on track. Well, almost. In retrospect, I should have kept going back then, but adding more change on top of everything that was going on at that time didn’t seem like the right move. I just didn’t want any more change.

Speaking of change. Change is a weird concept. It is inevitable and ubiquitous. Ordinary people can inspire or influence change through their actions. Sometimes we embrace it, other times we fiercely resist it. Sometimes we build our whole lives around the need for change, yet we hardly understand how it works.

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Heraclitus* (VI-V BCE)

The cyclical process of birth, growth, breakdown, and dissolution has long been a philosophical subject, maybe reaching back to the ancient Greeks. Heraclitus, who is remembered for his maxims “there is nothing permanent except change” and “you can never step into the same river twice,” compared the world order to an ever-living fire, “kindling in measures and going out in measures.” His compatriot Empedocles attributed the changes in the universe to the ebb and flow of two complementary forces which he called “love” and “hate.” Correspondingly, the ancient Chinese philosophers viewed reality as the dynamic interplay of two opposites — the yin and the yang. Their keen understanding of change is reflected in the term they use for “crisis” — Wei-Ji — which is composed of the characters for “danger” and “opportunity.”

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Karl Marx* (1818-1883)

Change, according to Oswald Spengler, Pitirim Sorokin, and other social thinkers, is fundamentally cyclical. This means that changes happen in a repeating pattern and that, although the specifics may be different each time, the general sequence of events is the same. The major alternative to this model is the linear or evolutionary view of change perhaps best articulated by Herbert Spencer, Karl Marx, and August Comte. This interpretation is reminiscent of the general belief in science and progress held by social scientists in the nineteenth century. Marx’s theories were based in large part on Hegel‘s view of history as a dialectical progression.

Hegel postulated that one concept (thesis) inevitably generates its opposite (antithesis) and that their interaction leads to a new concept (synthesis), which in turn becomes the thesis of a new triad. Marx adapted this model to his analysis of social change, asserting that all changes in society arise from the development of its internal contradictions. He saw society’s classes as encapsulating the contradictory principles of social order, and class struggle as a result of their dialectic interaction. Class struggle was the driving force of history for Marx. He held that all-important historical progress was born in conflict, struggle, and violent revolution. Human suffering and sacrifice were a necessary price that had to be paid for social change.

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French Revolution* (May 5, 1789 – Nov 9, 1799)

But the most exciting contributions to the idea of change in recent decades have come from people who study quantum physics, general systems, and chaos and complexity. Nobel laureates such as chemist Ilya Prigogine, physicist Murray Gell-Mann, and economist Kenneth Arrow, along with a host of others engaged in the study of complex systems have pioneered a new approach to understanding the change, or in other words – instability and fluctuations that characterize seemingly random events, be it at the level of molecules, of biological systems, or even of social systems. They have shown that many random events can be understood as the outcome of a complex set of interrelationships that are themselves subject to rapid and unpredictable change.

The central discovery here is the prevalence of instability. In essence, instability means that small changes in initial conditions may lead to a large amplification of the effects of the changes. A great example of this is the butterfly effect. It is difficult to predict what will happen when a butterfly flaps its wings in the Amazon, but a storm will likely form in the Atlantic. The butterfly effect is the unpredictable outcome of small changes in initial conditions. And sometimes seemingly insignificant events can lead to large-scale effects, like the financial crisis of 2008, or the spread of a virus.

Ilya Prigogine, who won the Nobel Prize in chemistry in 1977, has been at the center of the emerging science of complexity. In his book “Order Out of Chaos”, he explores the nature of change in what he calls “dissipative structures.” Dissipative structures are best described as open systems in the sense that they interact with the larger world around them by constantly trading energy and maintaining themselves through an endless dynamic flow. One of the chief characteristics of these systems is that they are subject to constant fluctuations or perturbations, sudden shifts that allow for novelty and unpredictable change.

A prime example of a dissipative structure is a human being. We are constantly interacting with our environment, taking in energy in the form of food and water and releasing energy in the form of waste and heat. Our biological systems then self-organize to maintain this flow. Fluctuations or perturbations in this case would be changes in our body temperature or sudden shifts in our moods. Our mind is another example of a dissipative structure, with its own fluctuations or perturbations caused by the changing world around us.

A painting of the human brain, by Leonardo DaVinci*

Effectively, human beings are the epitome of change. As dissipative structures, we are complex, dynamic systems that are constantly in motion and change. Our bodies, minds, and experiences are subject to constant fluctuations and perturbations, which drive our behavior and evolution over time. Our bodies are constantly transforming, our minds are always wondering and our inventions are forever changing the world around us. We are capable of adapting to new environments and situations, and we are constantly learning and growing. It can be seen that change is an inherent part of our world and human nature. Understanding how change works, and how we can learn to adapt to it, is essential for dealing with the challenges of a rapidly changing world.

But if a change is so “natural”, why does it feel so unnatural to deal with? Why do we tend to resist change and seek stability? Is change always good? These are some of the questions that I will address in my next post. Hopefully in less than 2 years. Stay tuned.

* All images were generated with Stable Diffusion AI

How I Learned to Love the Change.

The first time I experienced a significant change, I was ten, and my home country was falling apart. The year was 1991 and the country that gave the world the first human in space – the USSR – was quickly sliding into oblivion. At the time, I was too young to fully comprehend the consequences of undergoing change, but not even my parents understood how the collapse of the “evil empire” would affect us all. Almost a decade of hardship ensued, but fortunately, we all survived.

The next significant change for me happened in 1996 when I, under pressure from my teacher, transferred to a different high school. This time the change was deliberate, but still, it was terrifying and uncomfortable. My parents nor I could predict the consequences, and instead of being one of the top students in my old school, I became just one of the many. While I struggled to adjust to much higher academic standards, I was invigorated by all smart and exciting people surrounding me. It was hard, but after graduating in the top 15 of the class, I was very grateful to my teacher for encouraging me to switch high schools.

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“There is nothing permanent except change.” – Heraclitus

Then in 2003, after a few turbulent and indecisive years, I undertook the most significant change in my life – I moved to the United States. This time around, I was not scared, as it all felt like a big adventure, and I was extremely excited to be a part of it. Nonetheless, it took me years to adapt: first through the college, then through my early career in tech and education, and then through learning how to be American. For a while, I hated driving in American cities; I was constantly freezing from AC in every restaurant that I went to; I struggled to identify various American accents and misused countless English words; I couldn’t appreciate or understand American humor; I hated cilantro, and I was clueless about American politics. Once again, I managed and even learned how to make America my home.

Fast forward to 2017, after graduating from 2 universities, working for three different companies, changing five addresses, visiting 20 different states, and meeting many amazing people along the way, I was hungry for change again. In May 2017, I quit my job, packed a suitcase, and moved to Europe. Only this time, no matter how hard I tried to convince myself that this was just another adventure, it felt more like switching high schools again. It felt very uncomfortable. I barely knew anyone in Berlin and I couldn’t speak any German. I only had ten years of professional experience in the US and a resume I could send out to a bunch of companies in Berlin in the hopes that something matching my skills would transpire. Once again, it took me a little while to adapt to the change (and I’m still adjusting). Yet, now, after 2.5 years living in Germany, after switching two addresses, working for two companies, and visiting 13 different countries in Europe, I am hungry for a change again. Now that I can understand some German and as I’m starting to have more days where I feel like I’m in control vs. the days where I have no clue what is going on around me, I’m willing to pack my bags and leave everything behind and move once again? Have I become a change junky? Or is there something else at play?

Stay tuned!